Got Chemistry?

In high school, I struggled through my AP Chemistry class. “Chem-is-Try” my teacher always said. And boy did I try. While I no longer have to recite the elements on the Periodic Table or graph a titration curve, chemistry now plays a much different (read: more natural, aka less trying, but equally confusing at times) role in my life – my love life that is.

Chemistry is the study of the interaction between matter and energy.  In relationship speak, it is the attraction two people have for one another: it’s the spark, the feeling that you can completely be yourself around them, the discovery of your common taste in music or sports teams, the laughter of you being chased around the living room furniture and the happiness you feel sitting on the kitchen counter with a glass of wine while your man cooks you a delicious meal and catches you up on his day.  For many, chemistry is key to making a relationship work. But is chemistry instantaneous? Or if you don’t have chemistry with someone right off the bat, does that mean the relationship is doomed to fail?

I’ve experienced both. I’ve had the relationship where it was slow to initially connect but one day you find your relationship has turned from friendship into something more – much more. I’ve also experienced that instant connection where you don’t stop laughing or chatting the first time you meet and wonder how it is possible the restaurant is already closing because you just sat down for dinner. So which is better? Which type of chemistry is the formula for happily ever after?  Well, obviously I don’t know the answer because I’m still searching for Mr. Right over here!

What’s been your experience? Instant or slow-to-grow?

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